Quite honestly, since I have had kids, I’ve spent many a day looking like the lady to the left.
I’ve had plenty of moments thinking, ‘Is this my life now? How can this be my life? Where did MY life go?’ Then I’d feel unforgivably guilty for having that feeling.
I never really verbalized that feeling because I felt like it made me a bad mother, a bad wife, etc.
The last two years have been extremely transformational for me, but not always in a good way. A pretty major life event happened EXACTLY two years ago, almost to the day. It was the worst day of my life, but I can say, that this very horrible day ended up being the biggest blessing in disguise. Why? Because it woke me up.
It awakened emotions in me that I had buried really deep in order to forget the lack of emptiness I had been feeling. The day my first child was born, my life was no longer about me. My happiness went on the back burner and it was all making life happy for my child.
Over the next couple of years, I started to be really pissed about that. I have always been the center of my own world, and now I can’t fulfill my own life’s dreams because my child came first? What the fu*k! Feelings of resentment would come up from time to time, but I’d bury them D-E-E-P because ‘that’s where thoughts like that should go.’ Then I’d feel SO guilty and dealt with a lot of feelings of lacking as a mother.
When I had spent a couple of years ‘going through the motions,’ I didn’t even see my marriage slowly crumbling. There weren’t fights and shouting matches to make it obvious to me, but there was this slow separation of emotions that weren’t always that obvious.
Life happened and one of the most devastating things to ever happen to me awarded me with one of the most eye-opening, two-years of mental and emotional growth I ever could have asked for. (more to come on that!)
I started to get clarity on how to make life work for ME. I have been on the right path for the last year, or so I thought!
After working with a coach, I have realized that the path I was on wasn’t EXACTLY the right fit. It left out a few things I was passionate about…i.e. Fashion, beauty, coaching & training. I LOVE those things, but weren’t implementing them in my life anywhere. After much brainstorming and research, I have finally defined my purpose in life, and what a difference it has made!
Why was that? Well, I will explain, but suffice it to say, that I have been living in this ‘mold’ of what my life was supposed to be! I’ve been unfulfilled because I couldn’t fit into that mold, but didn’t recognize it. Now that I have clarified what my own personal ‘mold’ is, I am redesigning my life, my business, and my future as we ‘speak’ right now!
I am in the process of molding my business around my passions and being able to deliver an even BETTER service to others who are in that world of trying to ‘fit into the mold’ of being a mother, a wife, etc. and not really feeling fulfilled. It’s o.k.!
I will be launching a 23-page E-Book very soon about this very thing! I will identify in the book,
- The very process that took me from ‘dragon lady’ to a woman on a mission and with purpose!
- Why it’s o.k. to not feel fulfilled in your life as a wife & mother
- Why there is no room for guilt in that
- HOW you can change all that without leaving your husband and ditching the kids!
- The simple step-by-step process that will allow you to define your purpose in life without overwhelming you!
As you find your path to fulfillment, you will achieve all that without disrupting the life you’ve worked hard to build. My purpose is to help you make life even BETTER! To ‘Rock it out!’
With that! I am going to finish this post, and get to work on finalizing the RE-LAUNCH of my business. It will no longer be called Vogue Networking, but ‘A V2 Concept‘ (V2 = Vidette Vanderweide)…Hear it, remember it, and grow with us, because, my friends, A V2 Concept is going to be TRANSFORMATIONAL to those who join our community!
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Your ‘Delicious’ Coach,
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